Each type and especially every animal form of life
has a special irresistible way of conducting its life which
shows that their actions are directed by a special form
of psyche. If we were to leave the strictly scientific field
we might say that there is a psychic director who dis-
tributes all the activities upon the earth using different
types of life to do so. In other words today life is con-
sidered as a great energy, one of the energies of cosmic
creation. Therefore, why should it surprise us when
people state that the new-born child is endowed with
psychic life ? Indeed if it were not so, how could it
be alive? (Montessori)
Diana, Aged Five Years : I had to conduct
two consultations in parallel, one with the mother, who
was in distress, and a play relationship with the daughter
Diana. She had a little brother (at home) who was mentally
defective and who had a congenital deformity of the heart. The
mother came to discuss the effect of this brother on herself and
on her daughter Diana. (Winnicott)
Why do I now underscore that expression: “what is happening?” Because
for me this belongs to the order of the absolutely unforeseeable, which
is always the condition of any event. Even when it seems to go back to
a buried past, what comes about always comes from the future. And it
is especially about the future that I will be talking. Something happens
only on the condition that one is not expecting it. Here of course I am
speaking the language of consciousness. But there would also be no event
identifiable as such if some repetition did not come along to cushion the
surprise by preparing its effect on the basis of some experience of the
unconscious. If the word “unconscious” has any meaning, then it stems
from this necessity. (Derrida)
This conclusion made a great impression because
previously the child had been considered void of psychic
life. Many began to study and meditate upon the fact
that the child is endowed with a psychic life even be-
fore birth. (Montessori)
My contact with the mother lasted an hour. The child was
with us all the time, and my task was a threefold one: to
give the mother full attention because of her own needs, to play
with the child, and (for the purpose of writing this paper) to
record the nature of Diana’s play.
As a matter of fact it was Diana herself who took charge from
the beginning, for as I opened the front door to let in the mother
an eager little girl presented herself, putting forward a small
teddy. I did not look at her mother or at her, but I went straight
for the teddy and said: ‘What’s his name?’ She said: ‘Just Teddy.’
So a strong relationship between Diana and myself had quickly
developed, and I needed to keep this going in order to do my
main job, which was to meet the needs of the mother. In the
consulting-room Diana needed all the time, naturally, to feel
that she had my attention, but it was possible for me to give the
mother the attention she needed and to play with Diana too. (Winnicott)
The tangle which is entirely below the level of consciousness can be set right by being with yourself, the ‘I am’, by watching yourself in your daily life with alert interest with the intention to understand rather than to judge, in full acceptance of whatever may emerge, because it is there, you encourage the deep to come to the surface and enrich your life and consciousness with its captive energies. This is the great work of awareness; it removes obstacles and releases energies by understanding the nature of life and mind.
(Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj)
If one is endowed with psychic life, one receives
impressions and at birth a great shock must be felt by
the child. This is a new point which makes thinkers
dwell upon the drama of birth, the fact of a psychic life,
of a living being thrown all of a sudden from one environ-
ment into another vastly different. This sudden change
of environment is even more impressive when one
considers the condition of the child at birth. The new-
born child is not fully developed and indeed the more
people study it, the more they realize how incomplete it is
even physically. Everything is unfinished. The legs
with which he will walk upon the earth and invade the
whole world are still cartilaginous. The same is true
of the cranium that encloses the brain which is in need
of a strong defence, but in the new-born child the head
is not yet ossified. Only a few of its bones are deve-
loped. More important still is the fact that the nerves
themselves are not completed so that there is a lack of
central direction and therefore a lack of unification
between the organs, so that this being, whose bones are
not yet developed, is at the same time unable to obey
the urge to move because every urge is transmitted by
nerves and they are not yet fully developed. (Montessori)
When we all three got into the consulting-room we settled
down, the mother sitting on the couch, Diana having a small
chair to herself near the child table. Diana took her small teddy
bear and stuffed it into my breast pocket. She tried to see how
far it would go down, and examined the lining of my jacket, and
from this she became interested in the various pockets and the
way that they did not communicate with each other. This was
happening while the mother and I were talking seriously about
the backward child of two and a half, and Diana gave the
additional information: ‘He has a hole in his heart.’ One could
say that while playing she was listening with one ear. It seemed
to me that she was able to accept her brother’s physical disability
due to the hole in his heart while not finding his mental
backwardness within her range. (Winnicott)
Thus also in nature a holy seriousness is to be seen in the fact that natural occurrences are uniformly subject to law. Contemplation of the divine meaning underlying the workings of the universe gives to the man who is called upon to influence others the means of producing like effects. This requires that power of inner concentration which religious contemplation develops in great men strong in faith. It enables them to apprehend the mysterious and divine laws of life, and by means of profoundest inner concentration they give expression to these laws in their own persons. Thus a hidden spiritual power emanates from them, influencing and dominating others without their being aware of how it happens. (I Ching , Hexagram 20)
So in
the human new-born, there is no movement whilst
among animals the new-born walk almost at once.
The conclusion is this : the child at birth is still in
an embryonic stage. Thus we must consider” the child
as possessing an embryonic life that extends before
and after birth. This life is interrupted, we might say,
by a great event, the great adventure of birth, by which
he plunges into a new environment. The change
in itself is terrific ; it is as though one went from the earth
to the moon. But this is not all ; in order to make this
great step the child must make a tremendous physical
effort. Generally the fact that the child goes through
so difficult an experience is not considered. When a
child is born, people think only about the mother, and how
difficult it has been for her. The child, however, passes
through a greater trial than the mother, especially if one
considers that the child is not even complete, but is never-
theless endowed with a psychic life. Let us therefore
remember that the new-born child does not possess
developed psychic faculties because he has yet to create
them, this psychic embryo, which even physically is not
complete, must create its own faculties. (Montessori)
In the playing that Diana and I did together, playing without
therapeutics in it, I felt free to be playful. Children play more
easily when the other person is able and free to be playful. I
suddenly put my ear to the teddy bear in my pocket and I said:
‘I heard him say something!’ She was very interested in this. I
said: ‘I think he wants someone to play with’, and I told her
about the woolly lamb that she would find if she looked at the
other end of the room in the mess of toys under the shelf.
Perhaps I had an ulterior motive which was to get the bear out
of my pocket. Diana went and fetched the lamb, which was
considerably bigger than the bear, and she took up my idea of
friendship between the teddy bear and the lamb. For some time
she put the teddy and the lamb together on the couch near
where the mother was sitting. I of course was continuing my
interview with the mother, and it could be noted that Diana
retained an interest in what we were saying, doing this with
some part of herself, a part that identifies with grown-ups and
grown-up attitudes. (Winnicott)
Blithely passing in and out of where, blushing shyly
at the tag on the overcoat near the window where
the outside crept away, I put aside the there and now.
Now it was time to stumble anew,
blacking out when time came in the window.
There was not much of it left.
I laughed and put my hands shyly
across your eyes. Can you see now?
Yes I can see I am only in the where
where the blossoming stream takes off, under your window.
Go presently you said. Go from my window.
I am in love with your window I cannot undermine
it, I said. (John Ashbery)
Let us then continue to reason along this line. This
being which is born, powerless, motionless, must be
endowed with a behaviour that leads it towards move-
ment. The formation of those human faculties which
do not exist and which must be created, represents a
further period of embryonic life : the psycho -embryonic
life.
This physically incomplete new-born child must
complete the complicated being who is man : he must
create man’s psychic faculties. (Montessori)
In the play Diana decided that these two creatures were her
children. She put them up under her clothes, making herself
pregnant with them. After a period of pregnancy she
announced they were going to be born, but they were ‘not
going to be twins’. She made it very evident that the lamb was
to be born first and then the teddy bear. After the birth was
complete she put her two newly born children together on a
bed which she improvised on the floor, and she covered them
up. At first she put one at one end and the other at the other
end, saying that if they were together they would fight. They
might ‘meet in the middle of the bed under the clothes and
fight’. Then she put them sleeping together peacefully, at the
top of the improvised bed. She now went and fetched a lot of
toys in a bucket and in some boxes. On the floor around the top
end of the bed she arranged the toys and played with them; the
playing was orderly and there were several different themes
that developed, each kept separate from the other. I came in
again with an idea of my own. I said: ‘Oh look! you are putting
on the floor around these babies’ heads the dreams that they
are having while they are asleep.’ This idea intrigued her and
she took it up and went on developing the various themes as if
dreaming their dreams for the babies. All this was giving the
mother and me time which we badly needed because of the
work we were doing together. Somewhere just here the mother
was crying and was very disturbed and Diana looked up for a
moment prepared to be anxious. I said to her: ‘Mother is crying
because she is thinking of your brother who is ill. This
reassured Diana because it was direct and factual, and she said
‘hole in the heart’ and then continued dreaming the babies’
dreams for them. (Winnicott)